Hey guys, remember me? Rest assured, I didn’t forget any of you. As we approach 2014, I’m both relieved and a little sad that the craziness of December is about to be over with. But with the exceptions of the stress from holiday shopping and pretty much pulling money I don’t have out of my ass, it really has been such a wonderful and blessed month. So, let me tell you a little bit about why I’ve been away:
My big slice of awesome news is that as of December 1st, I’m officially in a relationship.
Yup, speed dating guy I’ve been dating since the summer time and I are now a couple! (I still don’t want to put his name out there, but for now, I’ll sometimes refer to his first initial M.) On that first night, after spending the afternoon watching a Niners game and hitting up a bar with his friend, we had a very deep and insightful conversation back at his place about where we were and where we wanted to be—and we both decided that the time was right to finally commit. I sure am noticing how different things are, back then when we were just seeing each other and dating to now being boyfriend and girlfriend and it all just feels so much better. The anxiety of determining the relationship and driving myself crazy with questions like “Is he seeing any other girls?” or “Am I girlfriend material?” has been a huge weight off my back. I’m not as fidgety when he doesn’t call or text back within the hour (Come on, I can’t be the only one who feels this way when dating someone!). Above all, I’m simply comfortable when I’m with him. It’s not that I felt uncomfortable when we were just in the dating stage, but I admit that I felt a little bit hindered and insecure at times. I don’t know how to describe it fully, but all I know is that now I feel looser and freer and more natural around him and everything feels right.
Our first month together has been amazing, and it’s not even over yet. A few days after we had the talk, we met some new folks at a lounge. The next weekend, we went on a Bridge to Bridge cruise on the San Francisco Bay, taking in some of the Bay’s most breathtaking landmarks at sunset and nightfall. The weekend after that, we road-tripped to Fresno to meet his fantastic family for a festive and soulwarming celebration. On Christmas Day, I brought him to meet my mom’s side of my family, where we all bonded over dogs, beer pong, and King’s Cup. This past weekend, he met my best friends (I found out that he’s not lying when he says he’s really competitive at Monopoly! He won, BTW) and we watched the heartpounding 49ers versus Cardinals game with a couple of his buddies. He also introduced me to a couple of his favorite TV shows, It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia and The League (I plan on returning the favor with Breaking Bad and Arrested Development).
Near the beginning of the year, when I wrote my Valentine’s Day post about my fear of falling in love, I had absolutely no hopes and expectations that it would actually happen in 2013. Now, there is no more fear. It happened. I have fallen in love and it has been the best thing I’ve experienced this year. I look forward to the continuing adventure.
Now for some of the other noteworthy things that have happened this month!
- Reno: I went to snowy and chilly Reno on the Megabus with five of my co-workers during the first weekend of the month. I played a little bit of penny slots and found out that I’m really good at snagging stuffed toys from those claw machines. I also won a large stuffed lion from catching all the Scatterballs. I named him Vernon. We drank margaritas by the yard, ate dinner at Hash House a Go Go (Where I ordered a delicious but MASSIVE Chicken Benedict that I never finished), watched a dog show at the Circus Circus Midway, and watched the 49ers-Seahawks game even during the Megabus trip back. It was fun to get out of the city and spend it with some fun folks that I enjoy hanging out with!
- Christmas: I already mentioned some of the fun ways I spent the holidays. In Fresno, M’s dad took us down Christmas Tree Lane, where a row of residences are just drenched in gorgeous displays of holiday lights and decorations for the general public to admire. I spent Christmas Eve with my dad’s side of the family, where I met my baby cousin for the first time, played with dogs, and played Cards Against Humanity with the non-baby cousins. Our annual White Elephant gift exchange was hilarious, especially the calendar my brother made of himself. I ended up with my own gift: a copy of Fifty Shades of Grey (Which I actually want to read — don’t judge!) and a One Direction mini calendar (Which I gave to my sister to re-gift for a friend).
- CAAMFest Features Screening Committee: For the last few months up until its wrap-up a couple of weeks ago, I served as a member of the 2014 CAAMFest Features Screening Committee, where I got to watch films in contention for next year’s festival, evaluate them, and assist with programming. I previously interned with the festival in 2012 and served as a Screening Committee member for the Shorts programs last year, so what a great opportunity to work with them again this year. I look forward to next year’s lineup!
- The Hudsucker: I wrote my last article for The Hudsucker last week: How to Throw a Rockin’ New Year’s Eve Party on a Budget. I made the decision to leave my contributor position on the site last month to focus on more personal endeavors, including blogging more consistently. It was a sad decision, but I know I grew a lot as a writer because of what I did there in the past year. I expanded my mind and touched on so many subjects that I wanted to write about for so long, as well as some that I didn’t think I would ever write about. I’m very proud of the work I put out, and I’m proud to share the platform with talented writers who have become great friends. I’m especially thankful for Tania, our founder/Editor-in-Chief and my newfound great friend, for having me on board and for truly bringing out the best in my writing. I may make some guest appearances in the future, so be on the lookout! In the meantime, please do continue to support this terrific online magazine and its team of dedicated and witty writers. I sure as heck will!
Check out some of my personal photos from my holiday gatherings!
Hope you all had a very happy holiday season!